Where and How Do I Meet with You?
I am located in Spartanburg, SC, but work with clients all over the country by phone or video conferencing. Some local clients opt to meet in person, but the process works just as well remotely, oftentimes better. Day and evening hours are available on most business days. I reserve evening hours for phone or video conference appointments, but can meet in person with prior arrangements.
How Often Do We Meet?
Spiritual Direction appointments last about 1 hour with an appointment scheduled every other week. I ask an initial commitment of 6 appointments for first-time clients. We understand that it takes about ninety days to break old patterns and implement new ones, while the first thirty can be the most challenging. Therefore, the initial commitment is primarily psychological, not financial.
As you near the end of your initial commitment, you will have the opportunity to talk about continuing the relationship, ensuring your victory and/or work on other areas. Many clients decide to stay on a monthly basis for a year or more, others maintain a quarterly or biannual routine indefinitely.
I am always grateful when clients experience results sooner than expected. You will know when it is time to speed up, slow down, take a break, or bring it to an end. The decision is always yours after the initial commitment.
What Does an Appointment Look Like?
The session begins in silent prayer, followed by sharing what is going on in your life. Together, we will explore where God is present and what God’s invitation to you may be.
The Spiritual Direction relationship is highly individualized and any given session may include: reflecting on past or recent events, interacting with study materials, your Rule of Life (a balance of prayer, study, work, and recreation), contemporary topics, theological discussion, celebration, grieving, confession, prayer or periods of silence. It really goes wherever God leads us.
Is What I Share Confidential?
Yes. However, some states require exceptions in cases where certain laws may be broken, and/or, there is a serious possibility of extreme danger to you or another.
Is Spiritual Direction Really “Therapy”?
No. Spiritual Direction is not therapy. Many of the communication techniques can be similar, such as active listening, reflecting, and use of open-ended questions. Therapy offers a clinical focus with a more intense schedule of meetings.
Sometimes during the Spiritual Direction process, we uncover deep psychological or emotional issues. I am comfortable working with some issues because of my own ups and downs, as well as my pastoral education, training and experience, but I never hesitate to refer out to professional counseling when it would be a better fit. Sometimes counseling is more appropriate than Spiritual Direction. At other times, they may complement each other very well.
Can You Provide Spiritual Direction for Someone in Therapy?
Yes, so long as your therapist approves.
As an Ordained Minister, What Are Your Beliefs?
The Nicene-Creed best expresses what I consider to be the essentials of the Christian Faith.
Want to See What Others Are Saying?
Then, check out my clients’ testimonials.
Still Not Sure If This Is What You Are Looking For?
Then, consider Christian Life Coaching. It might be a better fit. Or, if you are not sure which is right for you, read this blog post on The Difference Between Christian Life Coaching & Spiritual Direction. Or, just contact me directly.