During our formative years, we were surrounded by others guiding, instructing, and yes, coaching us through life: parents, teachers, counselors, advisors, pastors and mentors.
But something happens when we become adults. These folks start disappearing from our lives. It doesn’t happen intentionally; it is just life taking course. But growth doesn’t happen in a vacuum. The problem is by the time we realize this, we feel too old to ask for help. So, we just walk on alone, repeating the cycle of wrestling with clarity and getting sick and tired of being sick and tired.
One of the best times to get coaching is when you feel “stuck” or “off course.” Perhaps you’re going through a transition in your career or in a relationship. Or maybe you’re seeking clarity, purpose, or deeper fulfillment in Christ. You wrestle with the question, “Of all the good things I could do, what’s the best thing?”
The best way to answer these questions is with a trusted ally that provides accountability, helps you dig deep, and encourages you to dream big.
A Professional Coach Can Help You:
Build Self Awareness
In a coaching appointment, I use open-ended questions to draw out what’s already brewing on the inside. Rather than instructing, mentoring, or lecturing you, I will help you discover your own insights, translate them into action steps, and support implementation.
Find Your “True North”
Coaching is about identifying, equipping, and releasing who you are at your core, charting a course that includes more of the things that “fit” and less of the things that don’t. When you align with your “true north” everything else falls into place.
Release Latent Potential
You have untapped potential. Some of it hasn’t even been discovered yet. The ones that have may not yet be fully expressed. Together with me, you’ll discover and integrate these passions into your everyday life. Get ready to be challenged.
Create Lasting Change
Lasting change (a.k.a. transformation) takes time and consistent effort. Coaching is not just about digging in to reach a goal but developing, supporting, and maintaining new habits and behaviors; character formation. I will be there to encourage you along the way.
Bring Out Your Best
You are the expert on your life. I’m trained to support you in living out that reality. Your desires form the big picture of our coaching arrangement, and you set the agenda for each appointment. I will be there to point out your potential, even when you lose sight of it.
Will Coaching Really Work for Me?
You bet. A 2014 Global Coaching Client Study conducted on behalf of the International Coach Federation (ICF) found that of those individuals who had received coaching:
- 80% saw improved self-confidence
- 73% saw improved relationships
- 72% saw improved communication skills
- 70% saw improved work performance
- 61% saw improved business management
- 57% saw improved time management
- 51% saw improved team performance
And of those surveyed, 99% indicated that there were “somewhat or fully satisfied with their coaching experience” and 96% said they would do it again.
Coaching is a gamechanger. It’s a collaborative process that works because you’re now an adult. You learn differently than you did as a child, teen, or college student. You don’t need someone lecturing you — you need the kind of clarity that comes only from self-awareness, self-discovery, brainstorming, and strategic thinking.
What Are Your Qualifications?
I completed an extensive coaching training program and earned certification as a Certified Leadership Development Coach (CLDC) through Terry Walling’s Leader Breakthru and Keith Webb’s Creative Results Management. I am an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach (ACC) and subscribe to the ICF Code of Ethics. In addition, I am a Certified Spiritual Director (CSD), seminary graduate (MDIV), and ordained minister. I have logged hundreds of hours of soul care conversation.
Where and How Do I Meet with You?
I am located in Spartanburg, SC, but work with clients all over the country by phone or video conferencing. Some local clients opt to meet in person, but the process works just as well remotely, oftentimes better. Day and evening hours are available on most business days. I reserve evening hours for phone or video conference appointments, but can meet in person with prior arrangements.
How Often Do We Meet?
Coaching appointments are usually 1 hour with an appointment scheduled every other week. In some cases, it is possible to schedule appointments on a weekly basis. For first-time coaching clients, an initial commitment of 6 appointments is required. It has long been understood that it takes about ninety days to break old patterns and implement new ones, while the first thirty can be the most challenging. Therefore, the initial commitment is primarily psychological, not financial.
As you near the end of your initial commitment, you will have the opportunity to talk about continuing the coaching relationship to ensure your victory and/or work on other areas. Many clients decide to stay on a monthly basis for a year or more, others might maintain a quarterly or biannual routine indefinitely.
I am always grateful when clients experience results sooner than expected. You will know when it is time to speed up, slow down, take a break, or bring it to an end. The decision is always yours after the initial commitment.
What Does an Appointment Look Like?
I use The Coach Model, a five-step guide by Keith Webb to organize the appointments. The five steps are:
A sample breakdown of the session might be:
- 3-5 minutes: CONNECTING with each other.
- 5-10 minutes: Determining your desired OUTCOME.
- 20-30 minutes: Building AWARENESS of the issues.
- 10-15 minutes: Determining your COURSE of action.
- 3-5 minutes: Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS from our appointment.
Specifically, during the appointment, I will ask questions that will help you discover what is most important to you. I will listen to what you say, what you are trying to say, and what you are not saying. My job is to be three steps ahead of you, yet be with you. Anyone who’s trying to accomplish something needs an outside voice full of encouragement and wisdom. I will support you in a way that fully expresses your unique calling, skills, abilities, gifts, passions, and purpose.
The power of the coaching process can be granted only by you. Come prepared to engage the process. Be willing to provide feedback along the way; it is essential to the process. If you are sensing that the appointment is not heading in the right direction please stop the appointment, and let’s review our approach.
Are There Any Assignments?
Yes. Each session ends with 1-3 assignments (action steps) that we come up with together, and, you agree to complete before your next appointment. If you apply yourself and work the assignments, they should help you achieve your goals.
Is What I Share Confidential?
Yes. However, some states require exceptions in cases where certain laws may be broken, and/or, there is a serious possibility of extreme danger to you or another.
Is Coaching Really “Mentoring”?
No. Coaching is not mentoring. The difference between coaching and mentoring is this: coaching helps pull answers out, while mentoring helps put answers in. Mentors are typically experts in a particular field with a desire to pass on their expertise to another person. Mentors provide knowledge, advice, guidance, correction, and encouragement to people who are junior-by age, position, or experience.
However, there are times when I may stop the conversation and ask permission to give comments that are more down the mentoring track. If that is to occur, I will acknowledge the moment and ask your permission to discuss issues from that perspective. But, by and large, a coach is not a mentor, telling you what to do or how to do it. I will coach you to arrive at your own conclusions, test you to see if they are valid, and challenge you to act when they are.
Is Coaching Really “Therapy”?
No. Coaching is not therapy. Although many of the communication techniques can be similar, therapy focuses on the past to bring healing and release a person to move forward emotionally. Coaching is future and action-oriented, primarily for people relatively free of deep psychological and/or deep emotional issues.
Sometimes during the Christian Life Coaching process, we uncover deep psychological or emotional issues. I am comfortable working with some issues because of my own ups and downs, as well as my pastoral education, training and experience, but I never hesitate to refer out to professional counseling when it would be a better fit. Sometimes counseling is more appropriate than Spiritual Direction. At other times, they may complement each other very well.
Can You Coach Someone in Therapy?
Yes, so long as your therapist approves.
As an Ordained Minister, What Are Your Beliefs?
The Nicene-Creed best expresses what I consider to be the essentials of the Christian Faith.
Want to See What Others Are Saying?
Then, check out my clients’ testimonials.
Still Not Sure If This Is What You Are Looking For?
Then, consider Spiritual Direction. It might be a better fit. Or, if you are not sure which is right for you, read this blog post on The Difference Between Christian Life Coaching & Spiritual Direction. Or, just contact me, and I can answer any questions in person.